2/18/10 Dear Abby Dear Abby: Readers were asked whether women have something to add to its board of "Hot Flash Hilda" (December 16), whose husband says he is "Medium" and "freaky" because she does not want to cuddle when she is having a hot flash. I've had 18 years of menopause. I told my eldest son, after menopause, is justifiable homicide, and it is best to tread carefully.Hilda should tell her husband that … How to tie a Shemagh